Monday, 20 May 2013

April 2013 – time for a holiday and 2 fabulous weddings


Gav and I both knew that 2013 was going to be a hectic year for us: our last full year in Malawi, my last full year of my PhD study and there is a lot to get done. We have planned carefully to have a break every 3 months, and a trip to SA with Louise and Stephen for Joshi’s 2nd birthday in April was always part of the plan. When Jason announced his wedding to Margot was going to be in Cape Town, at the time we had booked our trip, we felt it was really serendipitous. One of the hardest things about living here is missing important milestones in our friends and families lives due to cost and distance.

We had a completely wonderful 2 week trip. The first week was spend in Joburg and Cape Town catching up with family and friends who all arrived like us to have a holiday as well as come to the wedding, and on the Friday we moved up to Spier wine farm for the wedding weekend. It was my first time in CT and along with Joshi we adored hanging out at the aquarium with Nicky and Dan and their two boys, visiting the waterfront, getting the cable car up Table Mountain, eating lunch on Clifton Beach with all the wedding posse, fabulous eating out in the evenings again with the wedding posse and Aimee and Marco, going to Kirstenbosch gardens and visiting Dreyer and Klaff old family holiday haunts including Muizenberg Beach, Boulder’s beach and Hout bay. Joshi’s favourite was the cable car, even today he asked to go in it again.
Cable car Mummy!!!!!

Stephen & Louise at the top of Table Mountain

on Clifton beach

Emma and Gav run out of the freezing Atlantic ocean on Clifton beach

Generations of Dreyer/Klaff family holidays revisited on Muzienberg beach
Yummy supper and story time with Nicky and Saul

Kirstenbosch

View from the roof of the Fawlty Ambassador hotel

The best place for a baby group - ever in Kirstenbosch with Nicky

Baby bell-hops with Noa-Belle and Dash

Aimee's amazing shoes - just a shame my feet are too big.....



For once we had travelled probably the shortest distance to the wedding with the exception of the resident South Africans – family and friends had come in from the US, Israel and the UK to celebrate the very successful eternal bachelor party boy Jason’s wedding to the glamorous Margo. The setting was beautiful and warm, the chuppa at sunset was stunning and the ceremony was sweet and moving, with both the bride and groom relaxed and glowing. I missed most of the ceremony chasing Joshi all over the wine farm. Seb Shah (aged 4) said 'don't worry Emma, I will watch Joshi for you' and they both ran off towards the lake! Gav and Wayne gave a hilarious best man speech which I wish I could post a link to here, but 1GB is too big – if anyone wants a copy email me and I can try to get one to you. Jason followed it up with a wonderful speech of his own, and then we all partied and partied. We were all sad to say goodbye the next day as everyone went back to their lives around the globe.


Fabulous afternoon sunshine at Webersberg
Cheeky monkey who made mummy miss the ceremony....

2 best men have forgotten something....
 

beautiful ladies wait in the sunshine

for the boys to finish their drinks

Jack practises walking down the aisle

Noa-Bellissima

Sunset over the Weberberg Lake during the vows


First view

of the bride

bad pic of great people on the renegade best men's table

after the speeches and several glasses of fizz

We weren’t quite ready to head back to Malawi and went to Pringle Bay to a cottage just outside CT for a few nights to unwind and hang out with Stephen and Louise for Joshi’s birthday. Cape Town gives way as you drive east to a winding and stunning coast line famous for whales in season, with empty beaches of white sand. We stayed near the Kiegel biosphere designated to preserve the fynbos vegetation which is found only in this region. We ate seafood on the dock in Hermanus, hung out with the penguins at Betty’s bay and went twice to the Harold Porter garden in the biosphere as it was so incredibly beautiful. We had tea in a wine farm in a valley called ‘heaven on earth’ in Afrikaans where the Huguenots had planted the first cape vineyards. Louise in inimitable style managed to find friends even in Pringle bay, who she hadn’t seen in many years, and sourced via them some amazing fresh fish for our nightly braai.

Penguins!


More penguins Grandpa

Betty's bay from the penguin colony
seafood blowout in Hermanus

King protea's in the biosphere

mountain hiking in Harold Porter garden

Blue eyes
Wine farm in heaven-on-earth valley

beach fun

pringle bay sunset
 

 
Sunset walk on the beach

more beach mummy pleeeeeease
Joshi adored hanging out with his grandparents every minute of every day, and was delighted with his birthday presents of trucks and books, along with his truck cake (made out of a bag of scone mix and some violent food colours from the local shop full of E numbers the EU has probably banned).


peekaboo can you see Joshi




We went home via Joburg to spend time with the Sarkins and granny Min who is 103 next year and still looking amazing. It was fabulous to spend Friday night with as many family members in one place including Joshi’s cousins Liam and Dylan.

Four generations of Dreyer

Sarkins, Dreyers and assorted spouses and offspring :)

I bounced through Malawi for 3 nights before heading off to London for a few nights to surprise Georgie at her wedding. I had some unexpected cash from the tax-man, which combined with Ethiopian Airways buying air Malawi (in liquidation) and opening up cheaper routes to London via Addis, so for once decided not to be sensible and save the cash, but splurge on a solo trip. It was a beautiful wedding in Dorset on a cliff above the sea, and both Georgie and Roger were glowing with happiness. I loved catching up with so many friends and enjoying the local produce and managed to properly surprise Georgie which was wonderful. I spent the other few nights with my family supporting Mum and Dad, and Ros and I managed to get Mum out for a night to the movies which was lovely. When your family aren’t well it makes being apart even harder, and it was good to get back, even for a short while.

stretching our legs before the wedding - Rosh, Helena and Nick

Catching up with old friends on the cliff edge before the wedding

They're married!

Confetti

Helena & Nick

Suprise guest

Group photo prep

Mr & Mrs Russell-Seale with baby Miri

Taunton posse reconvened

Now we are back in Malawi and back with our noses to the grindstone again. Joshi is at nursery 3 days per week now, and really loving it and making friends. His language continues to improve and he is so flexible and loves to travel. While I was in London we managed to skype most days, one day he said ‘mummy please come out of the computer now’. Our next trip planned is to Mozambique in June with Ros, we are already looking forward to it and we are planning on squeezing in as much of Africa as we can before we get back next year. Politically things are stable for now, although who knows how long that will last – the treason trial is due to start soon………….I will keep you posted.


Much love to all

Emma Gav and Joshi
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Saturday, 30 March 2013

Feb and March 2013 it rains and rains, Gav jet-sets in an attempt to stop kidney attack



When February started this year, the rains really started to pour. We had one week of totally continuous rain where everything went mouldy and the ants invaded the house. Clinic became much harder trying to hear patients talk over the drumming on the tin roof of the clinic and all the children got frustrated at staying inside. It did make for some weird creatures coming inside to escape including a fresh water crab wandering around the hospital car park and a moth in the A&E where I work.
Very lost crab

most Malawian's idea of a tasty snack

our garden in the rain

and a very lost moth
 

Gav has been travelling a lot to talk about kidney medicine in Malawi which now has an international profile in the field thanks to his efforts. The African Association of Nephrology and the International Society of Nephrology both invited him to talk in Accra, Ghana and the UK about what he has been doing here, and both events went really well. His talk at the ISN unfortunately coincided with world kidney day – Gav set up the Malawi celebrations and I went as his stand-in, although not wearing the T-shirt. Ladies ululating down the highway singing about kidney attacks and over 100 people coming along to listen to the talks were very Malawian and it was a shame for Gav to miss it. But it did mean he could surprise Jason by turning up unexpectedly at his stag do in London to great acclaim.

The dialysis team set up the bus at the highway
Gav models the official T-shirt
Ululating ladies sing down the highway
The minister for health talks about kidney disease outside the A&E
 
While all that was going on, Sir Mark Walport the outgoing director of the Wellcome Trust came with a group of scientific advisors to MLW to decide if we were good enough to be kept in business for another 5 years. After lots of anxious practising we all presented our work, and they agreed to re-fund the programme for another term – the sense of relief in the air was palpable when they left. We don’t know yet who the new director will be, but hope he is as supportive to what MLW is trying to do for research in Africa as the Walrus.

I had fun going to see Zahara who is a fabulous South African singer while Gav was away, and had a great time. I also made the trip back out to the tea plantations with Jen and Selena and a lot of visiting psychiatrists, and hung out with Georgie who lives on another estate and has a daughter who is a similar age to Joshi. We have been hanging out with old and new friends, it is amazing how some new people fit right into life here, and how after some good friends leave, their friends become our friends. Karen who has been here for 4 years so far and I knew through friends and lives up the road has become my regular dog walking buddy since the arrival of Ruby from Laura, and she took us up on a dog walk to a local hill where we had the most amazing views of Zomba, Mulanje and Lake Chilwa all in the same view at sunset. I have also achieved one of my major ambitions for living in Africa this time around, to grow passion fruit. Our vine, thanks to Kate’s cuttings, is now bearing fruit which we should be able to eat in a couple of months.  
Zahara, so cool

Dog walking with Karen and Rosie - Zomba in the far distance
 

In between Gav’s trips, we made it down on a green season special to Majete for the weekend. Joshi announced to our driver ‘joshi want to see elephants please’, and when he did see his first elephant he was standing up shouting ‘ellie ellie!!’ and was so excited it was really lovely. He was so good on all the drives, not getting bored and enjoying spotting all the animals. We hung out at the pool and Ngona lodge and slept under the stars in Thwale tented camp. We saw lots of elephant, sable, zebra and other antelope plus a snake eagle, we chased the lions around but they hid from us in the new long grass – next time.

Joshi continues to thrive and grow, although he has recently discovered the phrase ‘mummy don’t want!’ and we know we are entering the ‘terrible’ twos – although hard to think how terrible it can really be when he is so funny and sweet 90% of the time. We are so excited to be sharing his second birthday with his grandparents in South Africa this year, on a much anticipated holiday for Jason’s wedding to Margot in Cape Town.
We have had some political drama here. When Bingu died last year it was alleged that some of his cronies conspired to stop Joyce, the Vice president, taking over. She set up a comission of enquiry into this, and it reported this month. All the report was published in the press and made for comi-tragic reading. The report for the day of his death starts 'the presidential food taster declared that his breakfast was safe to eat'. I do feel sorry for the junior MP he was meeting when he arrested in his office - not a great start to the job. And his doctor who left his medical kit at home that day and managed to injure his arm so could not do CPR or intubate him when required. As a result of the report, the leader of the opposition and his cronies have all been arrested for treason causing rioting here in Blantyre, and they have been allowed out on bail but not allowed to discuss the case publically. The judge assigned to try them has gone into hiding, and all the lawyers are sweating - it is never more true than anywhere I have lived that a week is a long time in politics.


 
We also marked one year left to go in Malawi – we plan to come back to the UK in Feb 2014, which means only 11 or so more blogs to write, so have to pack in as much as we can this year of Africa before we head home. So far on the list is Nyika, Cape Town, Mozambique, Zimbabwe and Botswana – any other ideas are most welcome.
Camilla helps Gav plot our road trip
 
We are very excited to come home as well after so long away, but for now the treat of seeing so many friends and family in Cape Town beckons us.

Lots of love to all

Emma Gavin and Joshi